what is integrative identity coaching?
It's what I do. We work together to figure out who you really are and what you need to thrive so you're feeling free and happy in your whole life. What food works best for you? Can you be more assertive without being aggressive? Want to be a better listener? Have you been questioning your sexuality? Want to kick some habits like smoking or drinking or Rx? Curious to learn meditation or join a new spiritual community? Want to feel comfortable around people of all identities? We cover all of this and more.
if I just hustle more, won't I succeed?
I say no. It usually leads to burnout which means you won't have a business OR very good health in the short or long term. Some people can work around this depending on their privilege but it's not a good solution for most people. Is that what you'd call success? I don't.
how can you help me understand who I am?
Every human being has blind spots. We all have things we can't see about ourselves that get in our way of good health, more balance and real success. As a coach, I can help you see these things and overcome them so you feel more clear, more confident and able to move forward in your life.
what health issues have you experienced?
Anorexia. Acne. Insomnia. GI issues. Gender dysphoria. Depression. Anxiety. Suicidal thoughts. Despair. Grief. Chronic joint pain. Sinus infections. Seasonal and good allergies. Mood swings. Bloating. Weight gain/loss. Headaches. Fatigue. I think that's a pretty comprehensive list.
how are you different from a life coach?
The foundation of my coaching is good nutrition and lifestyle habits as well as self-awareness and self-compassion. If you feel good physically, it feels more possible to make changes in your life. I also coach you on listening and time management and other goals but your health and sense of identity is my main focus.
how did you know you wanted to be a coach?
I initially thought I wanted to be a school counselor. I chose to be a coach instead because the program was shorter and the cost was less. I wasn't 100% sure it was right until I started the program. Then it was like the perfect thing I never knew existed! I did end up getting my Master's degree years later but not because I thought I needed it to be a better coach--I just wanted it. Being a coach was the perfect choice for me because it totally transformed me as a person, first and foremost.
what's the most challenging part of working for yourself?
Trying to manage everything and learn so many different skills to succeed, especially in today's business market. But figuring it all out over the past nine years made me more resilient and smarter, so I've grown to love it. The biggest challenge was overcoming the stigma of my trans* identity. I was tenacious and clear and eventually people have stopped thinking I'm only here to do diversity & inclusion work. Well, some people still think that but I just tell them what I actually do.
what are coaching sessions like?
You talk. I listen. I ask you questions. We laugh (hopefully, if you think I'm funny). We figure out what you want and need. You might ask me for answers but I won't give them to you. Instead, I encourage you to find access to your truth and inner wisdom. Was that last part woo-woo enough? OK GOOD!
what would you do if you weren't a coach?
That's not an option. Ok, I'd probably be a Buddhist monk.
when is your book coming out?
Good question. As soon as I stop overthinking it and start putting it together, probably. But since every author and writer has done this, I guess I'm right on time.
what else do you do?
I sleep a lot. I go for walks. I read. I kayak. I'm a pretty decent cook. I listen to music pretty much every waking hour. I watch movies. I...talk to my friends. I watch birds, but without binoculars so I can't see much. I write. I read. Did I say that twice?
I see you're transgender. Are your clients LGBTQ?
I've had hundreds of clients. Less than 2% of them are trans or even LGBTQ. I provide identity development coaching for people of all identities. I came out in my mid-30s after 15 years professional experience in various fields. Being trans* adds to my skills and is a unique lens for the world but it's not the focus of my work. Need help with D&I? Let's chat to see if I can help or refer someone else.
can you help me become a coach, too?
Absolutely! Contact me and let's make it happen.