discouragement

A Tale of Two C/Kates

I am writing to share a tale of two C/Kates. Our first tale is about Cate.

Cate entered my life during the winter. She was doing a couch-to-marathon training expereince with trainers and we met while I was giving a workshop at Lesley University called 5 Ways to Beat the Winter Blahs. Following our initial meeting, Cate came in for a consultation and we knew we would make a great team. Every session since she became my client has found us laughing more than being serious, but we still get good work done. An incredible sense of humor is one of Cate's many gifts, but the one I want to highlight today is her tenacity, courage and fierce determination to learn how to get and keep herself healthier and happier. I mean, she ran the Boston Marathon this year!

Cate came to me with goals and an eager desire to learn about food--everything from how it's made to how it affects her body and the planet. She has learned a lot and soaks everything we discuss up like a sponge. Something I really appreciate about Cate is her willingness to grow beyond what she's been taught about food and eating habits and incorporate the recommendations I offer to expand her awareness and competency around eating and living well.

She's making these changes gradually and conscientiously--exactly as one should when they are making long-lasting, effective lifestyle changes. Her text messages make me laugh and beam with pride--I love hearing how she finds little ways each day to shift her thinking and actions toward a healthier life.

Like this one yesterday:

"I was parked in front of Dunkin's this morning. Thought about it and left the parking lot sans food."

What a Winner.

Here's how she made an adjustment to her nutrition on the 4th of July. She took an average everyday hot dog (I sent her this article from FOODUCATE to give her more info about hotdogs) and did this with it:

from Cate (her title was, "Cate Cleans Out the Fridge":

Here's my big kid dog:

-slit the dog down the middle without cutting in half, score on the back and throw it into a hot saute pan (just a few minutes on each side)

-steam asparagus and cut red bell peppers while dog is cooking

-let the dog crisp a bit on each side

-take the dogs out, throw red peppers in the saute pan to warm them a bit

-put goat cheese in the middle of the dogs and close dogs as much as possible

-cut watermelon for dessert

and Wa-La!

the cheese will soften and moisten the dog adding even more flavor. I didn't use a bun or condiments (being aware of calories and the waste of bread) Asparagus and red bell pepper on the side makes me think of a ball park frank or sausage with the fixin's but for a big kid!

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For lunch today I had sauteed mushrooms, eggplant, zuccini, quinoa and left over sloppy Joe... sounds a bit odd but helped me clean out the fridge (sloppy joe).and get heavy on the veggies. The sloppy Joe was from a can but tasted tomato paste based so made me think of an Italian pasta dish. The veggies and quinoa made about three servings/meals and I used the meat in two servings - 15 oz containters (two lunches today and tomorrow). So yummy and filling! So glad to be back on track with cooking!

Enjoy!

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THIS IS WHAT MY WORK IS ALL ABOUT--showing someone how to gradually, over time, make small changes that add up BIG TIME. Her last paragraph is especially poignant because she was having a low last week, really digging out of some discouragement (like my own post about it a few weeks ago) and I reminded her that it wasn't the getting down that's the problem. As long as we pick ourselves up and keep going.

Cate is Great.

Next week, I will continue with the second tale of the second great Kate in my life...my personal trainer.

Discouragement Happens on the Edge of Greatness

Bummed. Depressed. Depleted. Hopeless.

Have you been here? I mean REALLY been here?

Cool. I know this place. It's called DISCOURAGEMENT.

My most recent trip to the Land of Discouragement led me to realize a few things, mind if I share?

1) The word itself tells you what's happening. DIS-COURAGE. You have reached your personal limit of courage. You literally can't see yourself giving more, striving more, reaching more---DOING MORE--because you think there is no point. The challenges have surpassed the payoffs or payouts and you don't feel up to being so brave anymore. Why bother?

2) Reaching a place of discouragement is good. This is what needs to happen to foster more growth. If you've reached this place, give pause and pat yourself on the back. If you weren't working your ass off toward personal growth of some kind and just lazing around like a scrub, you wouldn't even know the mere existence of this crappy feeling called discouragement.

3) You have a choice: you can stay here or you can get some support to make a step forward. It's a big deal to realize you have a choice. Many people don't think they do. We all do. Every moment of each hard, freakin' minute of each day, we have a choice to quit or keep moving forward. Just remembering that the choice is ours is what can help us take the next step.

4) Take the next step. Whatever that means. Does it mean calling a friend? Going for a jog? Drinking a cool glass of water? Scheduling an appointment with a therapist or coach? What does the next step look like? See it and do it.

5) Celebrate when you moved out and through the discouragement. This is no small thing. CELEBRATE your resiliency! Let it be known to family and/or friends who love you that you made it through a tough moment. Many people don't. You are strong, unique and deserve to be celebrated!

In my personal experience, and from what I've seen in the lives of my clients, it is the act of moving through a "stuck moment" that shows you what you're made of. Your resiliency, your tenacity--your COURAGE to resist defeat.

This is the path to greatness.

Next time you're feeling down---try to remember, "I need this to be great."

Notice how it changes the experience for you.