Stop. Stop whatever you're doing. Typing, calling someone, txting, chatting on gchat, knitting, etc.
Rest your hands on your lap. Focus on this screen. Only read this. Don't go anywhere else in your head.
What are you thinking in this very moment? What are the thoughts in your head?
We are our thoughts. I've heard this said to me at least 20,000 times in the last few years and still I find myself coming back and having to remember it. I am a health coach but I'm first and foremost a human being. I get tricked and seduced into negative, nagging and limiting thoughts and beliefs at every turn in my life---in some places more than others. The reason I'm a good coach is because I share the same struggles my clients face, either in my past or in my present life.
Here's an exercise. READ THESE QUESTIONS:
What do you want to do with your time every day? What impact do you want to have? What do you want in a partner? What time do you want to achieve for that marathon you're running? What is your ideal living situation? What would your life look like if you were doing what you truly love and were born to do everyday and making all the money you needed at the same time? What would it feel like to have all the love and abundance you want and need?
I want you to write down 3 thoughts you have that are currently limiting your potential to do right by yourself and live the life you were made for. Write down 3 thoughts that came up as soon as you read those questions above: 1) 2) 3)
AH HA! See! Those thoughts are what are keeping you where you are. If you're not doing exactly what you want to be doing in this very moment, or having everything you want to have, or experiencing life the way you want to be it's because of these thoughts. These "constructed glass ceilings*".
the sky is really and truly the limit for all of us! (except pilots, parasailers, birds, bugs, clouds and astronauts. they have a different limit.)
I say this with all the love in my heart and the mindfulness of someone living a life outside the "norms of society" and aware of my own privileges within my situation. I have a lot of experience training people to be conscious of the "isms" that mold our society AND I have clients who have shown me that they and they alone are responsible for their own health and happiness, no matter their identity or past life experience.
I had a good friend and mentor say this to me on the phone today: "Remember to not be selfish. A lot of people need your help and you're depriving so many people of your gifts by wasting your time [insert ways I'm wasting my time]."
It was exactly what I needed to hear. I AM wasting my time in many ways--the question is WHY?
The answer: limiting beliefs.
Stop being selfish. Identify your own limiting beliefs, take action steps and get out there and share your gifts in the ways that YOU want and need. As soon as a thought comes up to dissuade you, remember it's a limiting belief and it's not the truth. Truth is what feels good, warm and right. It can feel scary but as my mentor Joshua Rosenthal says: Fear and excitement feel the same way in the body.
Do you feel scared or excited? How can you tell the difference? By what you're attaching to it.
If you're attaching limiting beliefs, it feels like fear.
If you're attaching TRUTH and LOVE, it feels exciting!
Stop limiting yourself. Stop being selfish.
Eat. Love. Live Better. Savor Your Existence!