I’m your guide. Sharing as I learn, too.
I’ve changed virtually every aspect of my life: my job, my spirituality, my nutrition, my geographical “home” and my sexuality. Many times over.
That helps me help you better because I understand the process of personal transformation more than most coaches.
That's how I help my clients of all identities learn who they are and want to become. One decision at a time.
Select press for Dillan DiGiovanni
LGBT community on spotlight during Jersey Storytellers Project at Wonder Bar (Austin Bogues, ASBURY PARK PRESS)
6 Ways to Become More of a Minimalist (Jenn Sinrich, CLASSPASS)
11 Ways to Decide If You Should End Your Relationship If You've Been On the Fence (Carolyn Steber, BUSTLE)
Rethinking New Year's Resolutions (Dave Gentry, WORKBAR)
How to Be a Good Ally to Your Trans Coworkers (Vera Concepcion, REWIRE)
Get Out of Your Own Way (Pamela Henning, PROPELIFY)
7 Ways to Get Over a Winter Slump (Gwen Moran, FASTCOMPANY)
Living without Limits (Kharl Reynado, UCONN)
Surprising Health Problems that Come from Working Too Hard (Catherine Conlon, NY DAILY NEWS)
Select articles by Dillan DiGiovanni
Diversity and the FinTech Revolution Discussed at Newark Tech Week (NJ TECH WEEKLY)
It’s Easier to Sell Ice Cream (THRIVE GLOBAL)
Honoring My Word Like a Man (GOODMENPROJECT)
Storytelling + speaking events:
PODCAST Guest Appearances (click images to listen)
Dillan DiGiovanni is a person who inspires radical realness and resilience. His message and mission inspires people of all identities to be their true selves! His process is to practice self-awareness and self-compassion, overcome internal and external limitations or boxes and simplify their lives to thrive more.
Dillan is a two-time TEDx speaker and has been featured on PBS. He has spoken at companies like IDEO, Microsoft, General Assembly and he’s a Global Mentor for WeWork Labs. In his talks and stories, Dillan shares 20+ years of expertise in educational theory, diversity and identity development, behavioral change theory and integrative health.
Dillan earned his B.S. in Education from The College of New Jersey and his MEd from Lesley University in Cambridge, MA. He returned home to New Jersey after living in New England for 12 years. He runs on 80s music and coffee and needs to eat more greens. His favorite movie is The Karate Kid and he would definitely beat you in a lip-syncing contest.
For better or for worse, I haven’t had things “easy” since I was a kid. But all those experiences encouraged me to find a way to be happy and healthy just by being myself! Now I share what I’ve learned with as many people as possible.
I grew up a latch-key kid from a broken home who intuitively chose to thrive as a coping skill. I was a high-achiever with straight As. In school, I was called me needy, clingy and “intense”. I struggled through an eating disorder and overcame it without hospitalization or much support from adults in my life.
Things really changed for me when I rigorously pursued personal development in my early 20s.
In the early 2000s, I read The Celestine Prophecy, Ishmael and Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? Surrounded by other social justice-minded individuals, I felt clear and confident about myself as a spiritual, white, queer-androgynous person until I picked up Just Add Hormones and She’s Not There and was terrified by the stirrings of gender dysphoria within me. I put those feelings to the side, and moved forward with my career.
The economic chaos and office politics at my job found me jobless the week before Christmas in 2009. I had just become a certified health coach and used the opportunity to start my business. I felt empowered and confident in my new identity as business owner and health entrepreneur. I was going to change the world one kale smoothie at a time! I started a successful business with a small office in Somerville, MA and toured around New England as a speaker, too.
A decade of weekly therapy sessions and my own spiritual education paid off when tragedy struck in my mid-30s. After several decades of “coasting” on charm, high intelligence and a good work ethic, my resilience was tested. The bottom practically fell out of my life when I chose to transition my gender identity at the age of 34 while bootstrapping my own business and putting myself back in graduate school at the same time.
Within months, I lost my family, the person I considered a partner and friend, and my own sense of self. My business brand was affected by the stigma and stereotypes of cultural transphobia. But I persevered through a self-designed master’s degree program and found comfort and clarity in my research about behavioral and cultural change.
But I was tired. All the striving had worn me out. So, in 2016, on the edge of burnout, I chose intentional isolation in the woods of Vermont to integrate all I learned and heal myself from the PTSD, anxiety and depression of my transition and life, in general.
I’d barely emerged from the woods ready to return to Boston when I faced the sudden death of my beloved therapist of 10 years. Reeling from shock, I spent another 6 months traveling around, continuing my journey toward total transformation. I finally landed back home in New Jersey, by choice, to integrate former and present versions of myself to move forward powerfully.
I’ve experienced eating disorders, accidents, surgeries, heartbreaks and countless instances of personal and professional struggle. I benefit from white privilege but deal with daily struggles as an out trans* person. My heart has been broken many times, personally and professionally, but I still find ways to overcome my despair and resignation and believe in love and kindness.
During my whole process, I’ve learned that hiding who you are rarely helps you or others AND we are really our own best sources of wisdom and happiness. We can search for it outside of ourselves but the answers are always within.
As a Buddhist of 20 years, my mindfulness has taught me how:
to be a work in progress, constantly adjusting to life and adapting to THRIVE
to embrace minimalism and live modestly because we need less than we think we do
to have more money in the bank and a better credit score now than from any 9-5 job
to enjoy total freedom every day of my life
to know who I am and what I want
to embrace being single with no children, by choice (for now)