Dillan DiGiovanni

Working Well

MODULE 4: MASTERY 

SESSION 4: ENDURANCE

 

In this session, we will explore:

  • establishing our IDEAL
  • overcoming FEAR
  • managing constant TRANSITION

1) MY IDEAL

As we evolve, what helps us continue making progress is our focus on an IDEAL.

Our IDEAL is the dream, goal or hope we strive for in any aspect of area of our life.

It can be an ideal relationship, an ideal client, an ideal meal or an ideal office setting.

In determining our IDEAL, we must become more clear about areas where we are and are not willing to compromise. We can become more clear about what is negotiable and non-negotiable.

Download the MY IDEAL worksheet and fill it out. 


2) OVERCOMING FEAR

There's a common misconception about fear. Many people think we are supposed to get to the point in our lives where we no longer feel afraid of doing, saying or being anything. 

I don't think it's realistic. I think, instead, that our goal is to become increasingly more able to get in touch with our fear and overcome it. And repeat this process over and over again, daily.

 

FEAR vs REALITY

Something to keep in mind is the distinction between fear and reality. 

 

Our fears can sometimes FEEL real, but they are actually just fears. Once we push through our fear, we realize it wasn't the reality. When we feel afraid, no matter when, where or why, we must question if it is something REAL we fear versus something that is merely in our own minds.

I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.
— Rosa Parks

Questions to consider:

1) What is your greatest fear?

2) What is the worst that would happen if it came true?

3) What is the likelihood that it will come true?

4) What are you NOT doing from living in fear like this?


3) MANAGING CONSTANT TRANSITION

Life can be frustrating. Sometimes it can feel like we have barely attained a sense of balance and we get knocked off kilter once again.

It feels like this, because it's true. The only CONSTANT is CHANGE.

We are constantly in transition, moving from one thing to the next to the next. I heard this once correlated to moving between trapeze bars, swinging from one life experience to the next. 

People often equate this feeling of uncertainty with fear because they fear the fall---they fear slipping off the bars and dropping into a bottomless pit. They associate the bars with safety and the moments between them to be terrifying moments of deadly change and transition.

What if the bars weren't any more constant or safe that the moment we pass between them? What if we imagined the whole process to be both terrifying AND exciting?

 

 

Transition requires a constant energy supply. We need to fuel ourselves for frequent movement. And we need to factor in periods of rest. Transition happens between periods of equilibrium and disequilibrium. This happens for everyone. 

There is no rest for the weary---unless you CREATE it.

An essential aspect of managing change, the change in your life and the changes all around you, is being mindful of your own limits.

Managing change begins with managing you: how you eat, how you move, how you work and how you rest determines how well you thrive.

 

And when you have the mindset and daily practice of wellness and leadership, your life is WORKING WELL.

 


CONCLUSION of your COURSE

This course was created to bring you into more awareness of who you are.

It was created to help you know your own needs, your own habits and your own goals.

It is my hope that you learned more about yourself and others.

It is my hope you learned new skills to keep yourself thriving and healthy.

It is my hope that you continue this work to keep things working well for the rest of your life.

 

 

 

You have completed WORKING WELL.

GOOD LUCK.