Dillan DiGiovanni

Working Well

MODULE 4: MASTERY 

SESSION 1: THE CONTEXT

 

In this session, we will explore:

  • the context of mastery of wellness and leadership
  • The Four Agreements
  • the intersection of Knowledge, Skill and Desire

1) THE CONTEXT of WELLNESS and LEADERSHIP

To strive toward wellness and leadership, we must consider the context we're talking about. 

Wellness is not a constant state, it requires fine-tuning, vigilance and practice of the basics of good nutrition and work/life balance as we've explored in previous modules. Wellness is the absence of illness, in mind, body and spirit and something important to remember is that wellness is achieved through setbacks as well as progress. 

Leadership includes expertise as well as humility. It includes knowing and not knowing. It involves being a teacher as well as a student.

The context of wellness and leadership requires us to see ourselves, and others, as constant works in progress.


2) THE FOUR AGREEMENTS

The Four Agreements is a book written by Don Miguel Ruiz.

This book, like many others of its kind, explores the intersection of personal existence and interpersonal dynamics. It provides tools for mastering personal empowerment and choice amidst the daily frustrations and stressors of life, specifically when interacting with other people.

The Four Agreements are:

  1. Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word (including internal thoughts and external expression) to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

  2. Don't take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

  3. Don't make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

  4. Always do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Consider the Four Agreements in your personal and professional exchanges this week.

Questions to consider:

) Which of the Four Agreements spoke to you the most?

2) Think about an experience in your life, in the past week or maybe the past few years, where using the Four Agreements would have made a real difference. Share that story or realization with someone you trust.

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3) EFFECTIVE HABITS by Steven Covey

When we begin to transform who we are to achieve impeccable wellness and leadership, we begin by replacing our habits with new and more effective ones.

Internalizing these new habits begins with understanding the context of WHY and HOW we are doing so.

Steven Covey* said habits happened at the intersection of knowledge, skill and desire.

In order to make something a new habit, we have to have an understanding of what to do and why we are doing that. We combine that with how to do it as well as the desire, or wanting to do it. Without this combination, forming new habits can be a challenge. Strong internal motivation combined with external support is the ideal formula to personal transformation.

 

*The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change, 1989.

 

Consider a change you want to make. It can be with your nutrition, lifestyle habits or some other area of your life.

Questions to consider:

1) What do you KNOW to do?

2) What SKILLS do you possess?

3) Why do you WANT to do this?

 

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.
— Aristotle